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spyrothediscourse

“Valid” isn’t synonymous with “a member of a coalition created specifically to fight against systematic oppression targeted towards people who experience same gender attraction and/or don’t identify with the gender they were assigned at birth.”

LGBT folk saying “being asexual and/or aromantic doesn’t inherently make you a member of our community because it doesn’t modify who you’re attracted to or what your gender identity is” isn’t the same thing as saying “aromantics and asexuals aren’t valid”

The vast, vast majority of us aren’t trying to erase your identities. We’re not saying that you’re fake, that you’re lying, that you don’t experience a single problem in your life because of how you feel and how you identify, or anything like that. Many people involved in this discourse are ace and/or aro themselves. We’re just saying that our specific community and history and the resources that we’ve spent decades creating for those who struggle under our specific forms of systematic oppression aren’t meant for you.

Stop making posts like “Stop saying cishets aces aren’t LGBT!! we’re valid!!” That’s a false equivalence. Validity does not equal “queerness.” Validity does not equal being a part of our community. Your identity can be very real and valid without it making you deserving of co-opting our history and taking the resources we’ve spent years cultivating.

the-movemnt

A substitute teacher in California got banned for wearing a Black Lives Matter button

  • A 75-year-old substitute teacher at Clovis West High School in Fresno, California, was banned from working at the school last month after he wore a Black Lives Matter button to class.
  • On Nov. 8, the Clovis Unified School District told him he was no longer allowed to teach at Clovis West.
  • Roberts, who is white, had worked for the district 15 years. 
  • An incident report stated that students were offended by the pin, and that Roberts was not following the lesson plan. Read more

follow @the-movemnt

Source: mic.com
flowerlygirls

you can make 283728282 callout posts for lesbians and them being “exclusionary”, they wont stop being homosexual females. either one of three things will happen:
a) they start hating themselves, stay closeted and desperately try to convince themselves they can like males
b) they will deny themselves their sexuality and probably expose themselves to massive trauma, by having relationships/sex with male people
c) they will have enough and just dont give a fuck anymore, in the end getting the support they need, and be the angry hairy butch lesbian feminist killjoy you despise so much.

you wont change them. you wont “cure” them or make them better people. you wil only push them further into trauma and self hate. so if you give an actual fuck about women, you should stop.

winterbugvii

OP is a terf

urstraight

Oh my bad

winterbugvii

No worries. I just wanted to let you know. I got suspicious after OP said “h*m*sexual females” and “male people” and had my suspicions confirmed upon checking OP’s blog.

'male people' is their least subtle dog whistle term for trans women
the-movemnt

A substitute teacher in California got banned for wearing a Black Lives Matter button

  • A 75-year-old substitute teacher at Clovis West High School in Fresno, California, was banned from working at the school last month after he wore a Black Lives Matter button to class.
  • On Nov. 8, the Clovis Unified School District told him he was no longer allowed to teach at Clovis West.
  • Roberts, who is white, had worked for the district 15 years. 
  • An incident report stated that students were offended by the pin, and that Roberts was not following the lesson plan. Read more

follow @the-movemnt

Source: mic.com
flowerlygirls

you can make 283728282 callout posts for lesbians and them being “exclusionary”, they wont stop being homosexual females. either one of three things will happen:
a) they start hating themselves, stay closeted and desperately try to convince themselves they can like males
b) they will deny themselves their sexuality and probably expose themselves to massive trauma, by having relationships/sex with male people
c) they will have enough and just dont give a fuck anymore, in the end getting the support they need, and be the angry hairy butch lesbian feminist killjoy you despise so much.

you wont change them. you wont “cure” them or make them better people. you wil only push them further into trauma and self hate. so if you give an actual fuck about women, you should stop.

winterbugvii

OP is a terf

gaytkeepers

if u think having cishet aces in the community doesnt harm anyone then u dont understand what the community is for. that would entitle literal cishets to our resources that are keeping people alive. it literally kills people.

and if youre saying cishet aces wouldnt need take them bc they dont need them why are they there?

pro-gay

Coming out helps a lot for my established extremely gay humor like 10 minutes after I came out to my supervisor he was talking about religion with the guard and was like “Dan are you religious” and I was just dead serious like “No I’m gay” and he just lost it

pro-gay

Honestly like a lot of homophobia (internalized and otherwise) is rooted in gay being just this nasty private thing now one needs to know about, but it’s who I am like my entire personality is gay, I’m gay in my opinions, in my sense of humor, in my decisions, in everything. Coming out is revealing ur actual self to someone and pre-coming out me is like a very distant persona basically build for self preservation. You don’t know a gay person until you know they’re gay

kxrnsteins

Charities/organisations to avoid:

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PETA: They’d rather spend their money on publicity campaigns than on the animals in their care. PETA killed 73.8% of the animals in their care in 2015 (x)

FCKH8: Is a for-profit company that exploits oppressed groups for money. They’re also wildly uninformed, and spread misogyny, cissexism and bi/panphobia, as well as stealing their posts/designs (x)

Autism Speaks: They spend most of their money on researching a way to eliminate autism, heighten the stigma against autism and don’t have a single autistic person on their board (x)

Please support other, better charities, and feel free to add any others you can think of to this.

paintedspectres

Susan G. Komen for the Cure: CEO makes insane amounts of money, they deny a lot of requests for wigs/help with treatment/etc., and have attempted to sue other charities that use the color pink as part of their anti-breast cancer campaign. ( x x x )

prochoice-or-gtfo

The Salvation Army: They promote the hatred of LGBT+ people, work with fundamentalist Christian groups to support conservative politics and rip off and exploit workers. ( x x x )

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Wounded Warrior: They take money that should be spent on veterans and blow it on huge opulent parties for the company bigwigs. 26 million in 2014 alone wasted! ( x x x )

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^ Important reminder to NOT waste any money donating to these groups

ayellowbirds

Reblogging because of the added info about Wounded Warrior.

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I can’t add links because I’m on mobile, but Locks of Love is an organization that takes donations of hair to make wigs for people with hair loss (cancer, among other conditions resulting in hair loss). They charge the kids for their wigs. I would suggest going to Wigs for Kids, a smilie organization that doesn’t charge (though they are very picky about dyed hair).

deathfucker

okay guys, we need to talk about a movie called Big Eden

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It’s about this dude Henry who’s an artist living in New York,
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and he has to go back to his hometown in Montana to take care of his grandfather who just recently had a stroke and is wheelchair-bound.
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Things are all fine and dandy until Henry finds out that his old best friend from high school, as well as object of his unrequited affections that he’s never really been able to let go of is also back in town. His name is Dean. He’s there with his two sons to recoup from a recent divorce from his wife. image

Henry is extremely frazzled by seeing his long-time crush after so many years, but they spend a lot of time together over the passing weeks and seem to fall into their old friendship very easily. Perhaps a little too easily….??? hmmm???

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And with everything with Dean happening, Henry can’t be blamed that he’s entirely oblivious to Pike, the man who runs the local general goods store.

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It’s obvious to us (and the whole damn town) that Pike’s been head over heels for Henry since high school, but is painfully shy. He can barely talk to Henry at all and it’s the cuTEST GODDAMN THING oh lord help me from this movie.

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Throughout the movie, Pike can’t seem to help himself from wanting nothing more than to make Henry happy from afar. He’s supposed to be delivering food cooked by one of the older ladies in town to Henry and his grandfather’s house to eat every night, but Pike cooks his own, exceptionally better meals, and delivers those instead and tells no one.

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Now, Henry does notice Pike, and something about him catches his attention. Even if he doesn’t understand why yet. He tries to invite him to stay for dinner almost every night in an attempt to get him to open up, but Pike only becomes more closed off when he notices what’s going on between Henry and Dean. 

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I’ll stop there, as I don’t want to give the whole thing away, but I can’t leave this without talking about the town’s residents in this movie. This place is 100% one of those little towns where everyone knows each other as well as their business, you have nosy little old ladies, dudes who do nothing all day but sit on the porch of the corner store and smoke a pipe, and they all go to church on Sundays.

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AND YET, not only is this movie void of any homophobia from any character, basically the whole freaking town is all up in this whole love triangle. They support Pike so much that there’s even scenes where they all play matchmaker with him and Henry. They root for them in the goofiest, most loveable way. 

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SO BASICALLY, this is a silly romantic comedy, except gay. It’s all super  lighthearted comedy with tiny bits of drama thrown in. No one dies!!!! No one is killed or commits suicide and has a 100% happy ending!!! The three main guys are just normal guys!!! There’s not a stereotype to be found here!! anD ONE OF THEM IS NATIVE AMERICAN. No seriously guys it hurts me that not everybody knows about this movie. I discovered it when I was in middle school in our video store’s tiny little LGBTQ section, and must have rented it 20 times throughout the years before I finally bought it. I know this movie almost frame by frame I’ve watched it so many times because it’s just so disgustingly cute and always makes me happy. NOW, this movie isn’t perfect. It’s got some clunky acting, weird.. I guess artsy moments that don’t make sense, and crosses into the line of cheesy quite a few times, BUT, that’s really not important. This is treated exactly as if it were a het romantic comedy. Their being gay has nothing to do with the overall story, and is never brought up save for a small plotline where Henry is guilty with himself for never coming out to his grandfather. But overall, more LGBTQ movies need to be like this, it’s just way too rare.

GO WATCH IT YOU’LL BE GLAD YOU DID. Sadly, the only way I know to get ahold of it is to just buy the DVD. But it’s fairly cheap on Amazon! And even cheaper if you buy it used on there, but either way I promise it’s worth it to own. Like I said, I think I kept our video store in business from my renting it so many times.

Oh, and I hope you enjoy country music to some extent because this has the countriest soundtrack of all time.